Many of you have not only followed along with Sam and I’s journey but also the journey that I have been on with my love life…or as I affectionately call it…”My so called love life”. There have been some ups and downs, reality checks and most importantly lots of Joy.
While reading something to help me understand Sam better I was struck by a line that said pain from your past, is your everyday present, until you deal with it. I am no longer the type of person that wants to linger in the past. One of my best and worst qualities is that I am loyal to a fault. I have a hard time letting go. I am hard headed. I am passionate. I love love and want everyone to love me.
Well that is until Rori Raye came along! I started get Rori’s newsletter (Have the Relationship You Want Newsletter) years ago. I read each one and was renewed like a therapy session. I always knew that I would get to the point where I would purchase and go through her whole program. That moment finally came and all I can say is…I wish I was not so hard headed and I wish that I had given myself this sooner!
What an amazing program! I am by far still a work in progress but I have to say that I finally have some peace in my head when it comes to dating and finding real love. While I am not following all of Rori’s rules when it comes to my relationship, things are so so much better this time.
So ladies if you are frustrated, sad and broken when it comes to your relationships I would HIGHLY recommend trying this program. Start with the Newsletter and free eBook. But believe me when I say the program is worth every dollar! Here are some of my top take aways from the program…
1. You can only control YOU. He is not going to change if you keep doing the same things. Take control of your actions to create a change in him.
2. Telling him how you “feel” should not be scary…it should be something you do everyday.
3. If he is walking away, pulling away, drifting away…let him…trying to keep him around will never work. Love is not a negotiation…it is a feeling. And quite frankly if he is walking away when it is a young relationship is he going to stick around when it gets tough? Even if it is a long relationship, remember “rejection is God’s protection. ” Let him go gracefully. Something better is planned for you.
4. Use your body language and femininity to flirt with any man. Even the pizza guy! Practice makes perfect in this case!
5. Let him do the work. He wants to do it…but you have to let him. Do not be a CEO in your relationship. Save that for your job! Quick example…he contacts you…not the other way around.
6. Date yourself! How are you going to show him how great you are if you do not even know how great you are?!
7. YOU HAVE to come FIRST. He is more comfortable if you come first. Let him be a mirror and teach you how to love yourself first.
8. Give every man a chance. That is right…every single one. Even if you are not “feeling it” in the beginning…see it through. You may be surprised!
9. Communication can be complicated. Implement K.I.S.S * Keep it simple sweetheart. Less is more when it comes to the fellas!
10. Find JOY! If it is not bringing you joy then it needs change or it needs to go away. This is suppose to be fun. It is suppose to bring goodness to your life. If it is not doing that, do not get stuck. Life is way to short to be stuck in and struggling.
Guys this is just 1/3 of the iceberg above the water, you have not even seen the other 2/3rds. This program digs deep and is truly a tool for helping you find the relationship you want. This is not only romantic relationships….I feel like ALL my relationships have improved by letting go of the past and working on my future!